Today Christina Green was laid to rest in Arizona. Today I’m writing this to come to terms with the grief and despair I’ve been feeling and move on.
This whole week her death has weighed heavily on me. I’ve had a hard time concentrating on things and quite frankly have been tearing up over the smallest things. I know I am not alone in this. I know there are many parents like myself across the country who have thought the “what-ifs” about their own children. President Obama’s beautiful tribute to the fallen last night helped me a lot. These words I will remember forever:
She saw public service as something exciting and hopeful. She was off to meet her congresswoman, someone she was sure was good and important and might be a role model. She saw all this through the eyes of a child, undimmed by the cynicism or vitriol that we adults all too often just take for granted.
I want to live up to her expectations.
I want our democracy to be as good as Christina imagined it. I want America to be as good as she imagined it. All of us -– we should do everything we can to make sure this country lives up to our children’s expectations.
The grief I’ve felt the last few days has been almost like I have lost a close friend. I can’t imagine the grief her parents are going through right now. No parent should ever have to bury their child, especially so young. I’m not a religious man but I hope that Christina knows how much she has touched America in the last several days. I hope she knows that she has made a difference in the lives of many.
The truth is of course that none of us ever knows when our time is up. The best we can do is make sure those we love know how we feel. It is such a simple thing, often forgot in the hectic pace and day-to-day minutiae of our lives. I will make sure that I tell my children each and every day that I love them.